How do I Know? 

Figuring out if you are attracted romantically or sexually to the same gender as you or if you are transgender can be simple or difficult, it is different for every person. There’s no guaranteed method to determine if you’re straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, or queer. You can start by asking yourself some questions such as:

For sexual orientation:

  • Am I attracted to people who are the same-gender as me?
  • Have I had a crush on someone who is the same-gender as me?          
  • Why do I feel different from other from other teens?
  • Are my feelings for the same-gender clear?

For gender identity:

  • Do you feel like you’re a different gender?
  • Are you uncomfortable when you have to act/dress/present like your birth gender?
  • Do you wish you could make the female or male parts of you disappear or change into the opposite sex parts?

Don’t worry if you’re feelings aren’t clear yet or you don’t know. Figuring out your gender identity or sexual orientation can take some people a long time to figure out while other may feel like they have known since birth.

Am I Normal?

Without a doubt, you are normal. There are hundreds of thousands LGBTQ individuals across the world in every part and throughout history. To learn more look online for stories about other LGBTQ youth and famous people who were LGBTQ.

These are some good sites to start at:

Remember, more are in our LGBTQ resource page.

What Do I Do Now?

After realizing that you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer you may feel lost or not know where to go next. We encourage you to find out more information about being transgender or look up stories about other LGBTQ youth.

Other than books and blogs, a great place to look for information and stories from and about LGBTQ youth is YouTube. Many LGBTQ youth run vlogs (video blogs) about their lives. Especially, transgender youth vlog about their transition (from male to female – MTF, or female to male – MTF) and reading about their experience may help you face the challenges in your own life.

Many LGBTQ youth vlog and blog about their discovery of being LGBTQ and their own coming out process; reading their experiences can help you in your own life and learn more about the LGBTQ community. Remember to check out our resource page, we have a long list of websites, movies, TV shows, books, and guides for, about, and by LGBTQ people.